I get it now. I am embarrassed to say it, but I get it: The cliché of older men marrying younger women.
I was flipping through Facebook and various other sites late last evening, bored out of my mind. I randomly began, as so many do, typing in names of people I knew 15, 20, 30 years ago. The ones I knew in college, many were older than I was by 3-5 years. They are now in their early 50s. Most look like it too. Men with thinning hair or bald heads, chins that have become one with necks. Wrinkles. On even the most fit, there are age spots and the fine sag to skin nothing can change, that makes the thin seem stringy. Most of the women dye their hair. I dont blame them.
We are not yet old, but certainly no longer young. I saw some of those men and thought, if I had married so-and-so, thats what they would look like to me now. I looked over at Husband and smiled. I did not intentionally marry someone so much younger than myself. Even the few years between us seemed a bit odd at first. When we were married people were surprised, often saying they thought I looked the younger. Maybe they were just being diplomatic, but we didnt think it showed either.
Being with someone younger makes me younger. I am not so obsessed with the things I might be otherwise, and had the luck to have children late. Husband has always been an attractive man, and is aging well. He has a good sense of humor, and can be spontaneous. I do not want to rush into old age, and he helps slow the clock for me. The pert young chippies on the treadmills can hunt their sugar daddies. Let them be dragged into old age at light speed. I found my best friend when I least expected it, and he just happened to be younger. It has proven to be a terrific experience all around.
The bifocal prescription had to go up a few notches last week, but the eye MD told me after the exam that I had surprisingly young eyes, not a lot of wear and still very healthy. She knows better than to be diplomatic, so it was good news. I do not feel my age most days. In my own mind I am usually around 35-40. I am sometimes surprised when I look in the mirror, and know I need to get fit, but still do not feel like AARP should be filling my mailbox with solicitations. The girls still hold up pretty well, the teeth are good, and while I have lost a little strength, am still able to do what I choose with my body. It is more motivation to get fit, really, despite the fear of not being able to do everything as quickly or as well as I might like in the gym.