I was listening again, after a long while, to Tom Waits Nighthawks at the Diner. It is truly a beautiful live album, and an honorable homage to the painting by Ed Hopper (1942). The song by the same name has a vivid description of a blue-plate special: chopped meat (Salisbury steak) smothered in Velveeta and Campbells tomato soup. There are laughs, nervous winces. Not only for the name of some familiar spot, but for the food itself. Its funny what we consider comfort food, the things we seek out to give a sense of place, of self. The plate in question is not a memory of mine, but I can understand the sentiment. My mother was a baker, in one of the worst home kitchens imaginable. She was able to create things I will never fully understand, and that none have ever held up by comparison. Husband knows the sentiment too; with a jones every couple of years for oven baked BBQ chicken. I cant stand his version, but for him it is a memory of his grandmother. It gives him comfort. The food our our decidedly not wild youth (unlike Wait’s Frank) has little sentimental value, but vague memories of greasy spoons with sour black coffee, “texas” toast, and generic specials do linger.
I remember when many of us were new adults. College students with vague, naive aspirations. We recalled watching the original crew of Saturday Night live in middle and high school, just old enough to be jaded about the disco movement and deeply fond of punk for the alternative it offered. Tom Waits came out with Nighthawks in 1975, a cabaret and club singer from the outside track of music. A federal government that was represented by images of Nixon leaving office and the end of the Vietnam war, was constantly on the television when we were children. Ford and Carter passing through, then later, we were suspicious (and rightly so) of the promises of Ronald Reagan and his cronies. We went from using electric typewriters to the first PCs, then programming in simple language to the first internet.
Many of us migrated to Chicago, then urban points east and west. I do not have unnecessary fondness for that time, so riddled with insecurity and unease. Time has taught me that regret is just another form of self-pity, and things not done are just things best left. There were poets and musicians who captured our fancy, captured our ennui. Some were trite and passed into history, some linger on and get resurrected by a new crop of young, eager to understand, eager to see.