It seems fitting to post this on super tuesday. Do you know your doctor? Do you know your post-person? Do you know your plumber? Are there six degrees of separation between you and anyone interesting who is not a celebrity? Do you want to begin to do something small, to participate without baggage, to begin to learn and care about the things that may only be superficial right now? Pass it on. Expect to be rejected most of the time. And keep doing it. Breakfast.Lunch.Dinner.
Equals across the table
Your family is invited to a meal at (your name) home
on the date and time of your choosing.
Please RSVP to: (email, phone and mailing address)
at your earliest convenience.
When was the last time you made an honest effort to talk with someone very different from yourself? How might a casual meal and conversation shared between disparate people bridge distances of position, diversity, opinion, and inform both? Can a simple meal connect strangers, neighbors in a global community?
Our current world is both a small and complex place, often isolating and intimidating. With a simple, sincere, transparent, and curiosity-based exchange such as a meal we believe we can begin to cross boundaries and learn about others. There is no publicity, no material gain to be had, no hidden agenda. What is intrinsically exchanged during the meal is the reward, harkening back to the most basic social meaning of breaking bread together.
We are opening our home, our lives, and ourselves as part of the experience and expect nothing in return but respect and sincere engagement. The basis we work from when meeting strangers is to treat them as we would neighbors; people we are tied to as community members, but do not really know. It is the effort to know and understand someone, and explore our combined worldviews that is the point, the root purpose of the meal.
Food restrictions regarding health are respected, but otherwise guests are offered home food; that which cant be had in restaurants and is by its nature special. We serve what we usually eat, using mostly local, organic materials. For example, pot roast and mashed potatoes, roasted carrots, pies and cakes made from scratch, or omelets, toast and coffee might be offered depending on the meal. Our core family members (4) are your hosts, and no other people but your family will attend.
It is too easy to assume we know how other people live. Small snippets of information disconnected from lives cannot capture enough to understand each other. The biases that result from our assumptions have far-reaching implications. We know the effects of ignorance in our lives, and want to dispel it. We know the joys of curiosity, and we want to engage it (and yours) as part of this life-long project. Please come be a part of this effort. Sit a while, relax, talk, and have a meal with us.
(short description of why we find the persons interesting, and why we think they ought to know us in some cases, such as state senators)
Who we are (your info here):
Both of us come from modest, midwestern backgrounds. We have been discussing who we would like to have dinner with for years, developing a loose list of people we think are interesting. Further discussion of this led to the formation of B.L.D., which is a blend of the personal, social action, and art in a life-long pursuit.
We hope that this project might encourage others to go beyond their constraints, their contacts, and reach out into the world in a simple, deeply human way. We are equals across the table, our preconceptions put aside, and connections to be made. As part of our efforts, we take a digital photo of all of us together, give you a copy, and keep ours in the B.L.D. book. These artifacts are not intended to be shared, or profit made from them, and we use the photos as neighbors would: to recall friends and events, and as documentation to track our lives.